What if I told you there was a theory behind neglecting conflict? Well, there is. And it is called the runaway cycle. This runaway cycle is the avoidance of major conflicts that life throws in your direction. Most people fall into this theory because they never seem to tap into their full potential. The runaway cycle breaks down into four stages: Picking the desire, recognizing the conflict, returning to comfort, and repeats with new desire.
Picking The Desire
Some may find their passion early on, like a little league football player who plays the sport all the way through college and eventually ends up in the National Football League. While others may not find their desires until their later years of college. Whatever category you fit into, you are capable of exploring the very thing that makes you connect with the world.
Recognizing The Conflict
The sad reality about chasing any goal or objective is that one will naturally experience mishaps. The college football star may tear a few ligaments in his knee, which may affect his recruiting options. The introverted college student may not have financial support to finish their college courses, so graduation may get pushed back a few semesters. Unfortunate circumstances will happen, but your response can positively or negatively affect the outcome.
Returning To Comfort
During testing moments, most individuals refuse to face the demon that hinders their growth. People tend to flee at the sound of a bark before they get a chance to pet the dog. The skills that one has mastered without much conflict can become a source to rely on instead of progressing. Suddenly, the dream we once knew no longer holds its importance, and the current status quo is just enough to please their inner desires.
Repeat The New Desire
Eventually one will bore with the skills they have already mastered due to the need of mental fertilization. The body may not act on certain thoughts, but the mind will never forget the possibilities that were once presented. Then one will probably venture out and find another desire which now seems to be their new horizon. This newer horizon shows problems of magnitude just as any other desire, and then one tends to repeats the cycle again.
Now that you are familiar with this cycle, I challenge you to take a different approach. Don’t let your dreams and desires kill the very potential that lives inside of you. Reawaken those dreams and moments that you’ve been exposed to. This cycle can be natural and comfortable, but if your dreams don’t scare your or invoke uncomfortableness, then you will not grow.
If you are ready to grow, the only option is to start. Learn about resources online, network, listen to podcasts. There are unending resources that are designed to help you succeed in life, businesses, finances, dreams and relationships. Think about it this way: What are you robbing someone of if they never get to experience your full potential? Break the cycle. Challenge yourself to grow. Go out and be great!