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What if I told you there was a theory behind neglecting conflict? Well, there is. And it is called the runaway cycle. This runaway cycle is the avoidance of major conflicts that life throws in your direction. Most people fall into this theory because they never seem to tap into their full potential. The runaway cycle breaks down into four stages: Picking the desire, recognizing the conflict, returning to comfort, and repeats with new desire. Picking The Desire Some may find their passion early on, like a little league football player who plays the sport all the way through college and eventually ends up in the National Football League. While others may not find their desires until their later years of college. Whatever category you fit into, you are capable of exploring the very thing that makes you connect with the world. Recognizing The Conflict The sad reality about chasing any goal or objective is that one will naturally experience mishaps. The college football star may tear a few ligaments in his knee, which may affect his recruiting options. The introverted college student may not have financial support to finish their college courses, so graduation may get pushed back a few semesters. Unfortunate circumstances will happen, but your response can positively or negatively affect the outcome. Returning To Comfort During testing moments, most individuals refuse to face the demon that hinders their growth. People tend to flee at the sound of a bark before they get a chance to pet the dog. The skills that one has mastered without much conflict can become a source to rely on instead of progressing. Suddenly, the dream we once knew no longer holds its importance, and the current status quo is just enough to please their inner desires. Repeat The New Desire Eventually one will bore with the skills they have already mastered due to the need of mental fertilization. The body may not act on certain thoughts, but the mind will never forget the possibilities that were once presented. Then one will probably venture out and find another desire which now seems to be their new horizon. This newer horizon shows problems of magnitude just as any other desire, and then one tends to repeats the cycle again. Now that you are familiar with this cycle, I challenge you to take a different approach. Don’t let your dreams and desires kill the very potential that lives inside of you. Reawaken those dreams and moments that you’ve been exposed to. This cycle can be natural and comfortable, but if your dreams don’t scare your or invoke uncomfortableness, then you will not grow. If you are ready to grow, the only option is to start. Learn about resources online, network, listen to podcasts. There are unending resources that are designed to help you succeed in life, businesses, finances, dreams and relationships. Think about it this way: What are you robbing someone of if they never get to experience your full potential? Break the cycle. Challenge yourself to grow. Go out and be great! -Curtis Davis How To Turn Your Passions Into Dollars
When I was a little girl, my dream of becoming someone famous seemed unlikely. I didn’t admire too many people, but I wanted to be like my oldest sister. She was a teen model and she traveled the world. The role models in my life were very limited, but my Mom was also one of them. She made sure that our needs were met and never complained about the unfortunate events that transpired in her life. My father was a distanced father. He was there physically, but never made himself emotionally available.
After graduating from high school, I planned to attend college, but had no idea of the major I wanted to pursue. Instead, I got married at the early age of 20, became an instant Mom and housewife, and that gave me a little sense of pride. Once my baby girl was old enough to attend school, I planned to take up a trade and found out the program had no longer existed. So, I embraced the role of a domestic engineer for thirty years. I love a lot of things but I’m not too sure where my passion lies. I once heard someone say that your passion should be the very thing that makes the heart skip a beat. If you can find something that you thoroughly enjoy, even if you never got paid to do it, then you my friend have found your purpose. I know that I love to serve others and the thought comes to me often. I think to myself, if that’s your passion, why aren't you serving others? What is holding you back? A lot of it has to do with finding myself. After being in a relationship for over 30 years, I lost myself. Now I’m on that road to getting back to me. I truly believe one needs to embark on their own journey to wholeness before they can benefit someone else, and maybe that’s the fuel that I need to help me find my passion. I also believe the One who created me wants the very best for me. Just like parents want the best for their Children, God wants to give us a life of abundance. I know He can help me as long as I put my faith to work. So, this is my first step. I love writing and encouraging others. I hope that you follow me through this wonderful journey to finding my passion. -Aprel Alston |
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